I think I could’ve posted this about a week or so ago, but just had so much to say in other posts. A couple of weeks ago I decided, with the full support of Mrs. ROB, to talk about our experience and journey with fertility issues. You can read the first post here. In that time, Mrs. ROB and me have met with our doctor and have devised a game plan for the next few months.
Prior to developing the plan we had to have several tests run. Mrs. ROB had to do a series of tests as did I. I will write a post on that experience in the future. Talk about AWKWARD. Anyway, we received the results and in general Mrs. ROB and I are in good health. There is nothing that would prevent us from having children, which is a good thing of course.
Well there is one thing: TIME. Mrs. ROB and I are both 40ish and the statistics tell us that it gets much harder, particularly for women, to have children as they get older.
We have been trying to have kids over the past three years or so and it hasn’t worked out so now we need some help from science.
The plan is relatively simple. For the next two to three months we will be doing artificial insemination. Mrs. ROB will be taking medication to increase fertility. During specific times of the month Mrs. ROB will be testing herself to determine when she is ovulating. The next day I go to the doctor, make a donation, and almost immediately, Mrs. ROB will have to go in for a procedure.
If that doesn’t work and unfortunately the percentages are fairly low on this procedure for people who are older then Mrs. ROB and I immediately go to IVF. We aren’t messing around with other injections and other items that could increase fertility in women. Because of our ages we just don’t have the time.
The bad thing is that IVF is really expensive. We have friends that recently cut a check for $15,000 for the procedure. The good thing is that I work in a state that mandates that insurance covers IVF. It isn’t forever, but we can go through several rounds of the procedure until our insurance runs out.
I am trying not to think what would happen if it doesn’t take. What do we do then?
That is a conversation I hope we don’t have to have. Financially, we will have to pay for some tests and co-pays, but our out of pocket expenses will hopefully be fairly minimal (e.g. about $1000-$2000). That is a lot better than paying for it out of pocket.
So we have a plan. As Hannibal from the A-Team says, “I love it when a plan comes together.”